Pastor Mary Beth’s Musings: May 10, 2018

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Celebrating the Wide Spectrum of MotheringMary Beth Hardesty-Crouch

In this week leading up to Mother’s Day on Sunday, I’ve been reminded that it is assumed that the mothers we are celebrating are our “biological” mothers. But oh my, oh my, oh my—there is a wide spectrum of mothering! Writer Amy Young can help us celebrate the wide spectrum of “mothering.”

To those who gave birth this year to their first childwe celebrate with you.

To those who lost a child this yearwe mourn with you.

To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stainswe appreciate you.

To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running awaywe mourn with you.

To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointmentwe walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.

To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual momswe need you.

To those who have warm and close relationships with your childrenwe celebrate with you.

To those who have disappointment, heartache, and distance with your childrenwe sit with you.

To those who lost their mothers this yearwe grieve with you.

To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own childrenwe mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be.

To those who step-parentwe walk with you on these complex paths.

To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming yearwe grieve and rejoice with you.

To those who placed children for adoptionwe commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart.

And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprisingwe anticipate with you.

This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you.

By Amy Young (

I’m praying for you, I hope you’re praying for me.

Glory to God!
Pastor Mary Beth